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How-To: Love your Husband

Recently published by MOPS International:

How-To Love Your Husband
By Shannon Popkin

Sometimes a wife needs a little “how to” guide in loving her husband. Here’s a real-life take on a popular Bible passage about love.

Love is patient when you’re dressing for the wedding and discover your husband forgot to pick up your dress from the cleaners.

Love is kind as you pick up your husband’s pile of sweaty gym clothes … or clean the mirror that was spotless before he brushed his teeth … or take out the garbage (his job) for the fifth time this week.

Love does not envy when someone else’s husband arranges a romantic weekend away, or purchases a bigger house or organizes the storage room.

It does not boast about your husband’s new position when your friend’s husband is still unemployed.

It is not proud as your husband plays soccer in the yard with the children while your neighbor’s husband can be seen through the window reading the paper.

It is not rude during the empty chatter at your husband’s office party, though you’d rather be spending time alone with him.

It is not self-seeking when your husband wants to be romantic and you want to sleep.

It is not easily angered as you cradle your crying newborn for the sixth time tonight while your husband slumbers peacefully beside you.

It keeps no record of wrongs, like the number of hours he’s watched TV, or the number of pounds he’s gained or the number of checks he’s bounced.

Love does not delight in evil when he gets pulled over for speeding just after he brushed aside your warning.

But rejoices with the truth when he holds your hand and tells you he’s so glad that he chose you.

It always protects when your mom criticizes the way he spends money, or disciplines the kids or dresses.

It always trusts when he’s surrounded by attractive young women at work and you’re 8 months pregnant.

It always hopes that he will someday accomplish his secretly confided dream.

It always perseveres when he loses his job, or learns he has diabetes, or accepts a position in another state or invites his mother to live with you.

When you’re not sure what to do, remember: Love never fails!

 

Shannon Popkin is a freelance writer and speaker who lives in Michigan. Visit her blogsite at www.shannonpopkin.com.

 

Comments

Rachel said:

Beautifully put!

# March 10, 2010 4:34 PM

Shannon said:

Thanks, Rachel.  Now to have it be beautifully DONE... :)

# March 10, 2010 7:17 PM

Heidi said:

This is lovely, Shannon!  I'm so glad you shared!

# March 10, 2010 7:50 PM

The Farmer's Wife said:

Not even a little bitty delight in his being pulled over for speeding? Just a smidge?  

I have such a long way to go.

I just read, I think it was in Crazy Love, that to truly understand the Love passage, we should replace the word "love" with our name.  That was so convicting to me!

Thank you for sharing this, and I agree....now, to put it into practice.

(What about if he was really smug, right before he got pulled over? Not at ALL?)

# March 11, 2010 10:49 AM

Shannon said:

Heidi, glad you enjoyed this.

Farmer's Wife,  I'm not saying I was ever ABLE to pull off love in the getting pulled over situation.  (Not all of these are true life experiences, but that one is!! ha!)  

I have Crazy Love, and I've been wanting to get to it, but I keep getting distracted by other reads.  It looks fantastic, and I have read the intro.  I also think his other newer book looks really, really good.  About the Holy Spirit, I believe?

May we all love our husbands more deeply and more like God does.

# March 11, 2010 1:04 PM

alice said:

This is so great (and convicting).

I read some great marriage advice from an older lady once. She said to resolve that there will be 10 things that you'll just give your husband grace for. Then whenever he messes up, just say to yourself, "Lucky for him, this is one of those 10 things." I haven't quite gotten to that point yet, but I'm trying...

# March 12, 2010 11:29 AM

Shannon said:

Alice, I really like your friend's advice!  I think I'll make a 'grace list'. Should he get to pick what goes on the list? :)  No, no...I get the point... grace should be given without restraint. :)  But I think most wives know the areas that they will need to 'plan ahead' to show grace, right?

# March 12, 2010 9:42 PM
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