I make a good helper.
Just before our guests arrived on New Year's Eve, I gathered my family into the kitchen and asked Ken if he'd like to lead us in preparing to be good hosts. In doing so, I observed three things:
- Ken is our family's leader, not me. Sometimes, I have to remind myself of this, since I constantly give directions in his absence. It would've been very natural for me to call the kids in and remind them to use their manners, and not even involve Ken. But as we gathered on the kitchen barstools and Ken asked us to individually consider our biggest weakness in hosting, it was exactly what we needed. I was amazed at the transparency and open hearted prayers that followed.
- Ken does a better job of leading our family than I do. I was so distracted by food prep and lighting candles and getting the dog in his cage, that my attempt at preparing our hearts to serve would've been reduced to a 30 second lecture. Rather, I was gifted with a moment to self reflect, and pray that God would give me the desire to be hospitable, not entertain.
- I make a good helper. If I had not gathered our family, this little moment which added so much flavor and direction to the evening, might not have happened. My job is to set my man up to lead. I compliment him and help make him a better leader.
In 2010, I want to excel in this role that God has ‘cast' me-the supporting role of ‘helper'.